I tell the girl I only do PPM because there's less pressure to get together a certain number of times per week and we
can both go at our own pace. I also say that meeting for coffee is just a meet and greet, not a PPM situation, though
I will cover the cost of any food/drink in case we aren't a match. Most girls haven't had an issue with that.
I see. My question is whether you tell her you only do PPM when you meet her in person for coffee, or if you tell her before you even meet her (i.e. when you're just messaging her initially) in case she isn't interested in PPM. My understanding is that some SB's don't like PPM.