I just finished The Last Lecture by Randy Pausch. He was a professor for many years, working with youth and he wrote the book to impart some of his knowledge to both his young children and others before he died of prostrate cancer.
Some of my favourite quotes are:
The Parent Lottery (Chapter 4)
My mother was a tough, old-school English teacher with nerves of titanium. She worked her students hard, enduring those parents who complained that she expected too much from kids. As her son, I knew a thing or two about her high expectations, and that became my good fortune.
My dad was a World War II medic who served in the Battle fo the Bulge. He founded a nonprofit group to help immigrants' kids learn English. And for his livelihood, he ran a small business which sold auto insurance in inner-city Baltimore. His clients were mostly poor people with bad credit histories or few resources, and he'd find a way to get them insured and on the road. For a million reasons, my dad was my hero.
When I was studying for my PHD, I took something called "the theory qualifier," which I can now definitively say was the
second worst thing in my life after chemotherapy. When I complained to my mother about how hard and awful the test was, she leaned over, patted me on the arm and said, "We know just how you feel honey. And remember, when your father was your age, he was fighting the Germans."
No Job Is Beneath You (Chapter 51)
It's been well-documented that there is a growing sense of entitlement among young people today. I have certainly seen that in my classrooms.
So many graduating seniors have this notion that they should be hired because of their creative brilliance. Too many are unhappy with the idea of starting at the bottom.
After our ETC students were hired by companies for internships or first jobs, we'd often ask the firms to give us feedback on how they were doing. Their bosses almost never had anything negative to say about their abilities or their technical chops. But when we did get negative feedback, it was almost always about how the new employees were too big for their britches. Or that they were already eyeing the corner offices.
When I was fifteen, I worked at an orchard hoeing strawberries, and most of my coworkers were day laborers. A couple of teachers worked there, too, earning a little extra cash for the summer. I made a comment to my dad about the job being beneath those teachers. (I guess I was implying that the job was beneath me, too.) My dad gave me the tongue-lashing of a lifetime. He believed manual labor was beneath no one. He said he'd prefer that I worked hard and became the best ditch-digger in the world rather than coasting along as a self-impressed elitist behind a desk.
I went back into that strawberry field and I still didn't like the job. But I had heard my dad's words. I watched my attitude and I hoed a little harder.
Be A Communitarian (Chapter 54)
We've placed a lot of emphasis in this country on the idea of people's
rights. That's how it should be, but it makes no sense to talk about rights without also talking about responsibilities.
Rights have to come from somewhere, and they come from the community. In return, all of us have a responsibility to the community. Some people call this the "communitarian" movement, but I call it common sense.
This idea has been lost on a lot of us, and in my twenty years as a professor, I've noticed more and more students just don't get it. The notion that rights come with responsibilities is, literally, a strange concept to them.
I know that I read this book years ago but it recently jumped out at me and I now realize why. It's because of what I'm dealing with with my 25 yr old downstairs tenant. Trust me when I say that he's not half as smart as he thinks he is and his 50 yr old self will look at his current self and shake his head.
Here's the video of Pausch's last lecture: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ji5_MqicxSo